When I was 14, my biological father raped me. No one knows what happened, I don't even know what sex or rape was at the time.
When I realized what was going on, I felt like I had lost the time to scream or cry or do anything. So I did nothing but cut ties with my biological father. I have kept it a secret for years. I always want to leave home and go far away. So as soon as I needed to go to university, I came to Denmark. 8000 kilometers from home.
After years of study and hard work here, I have a good life job and everything. But I have this sexual problem. It only excites me when I imagine I'm a prostitute getting raped or forcing me to have sex or gangbang or something like that. I don't know if it has anything to do with my childhood trauma. I have depression all this year, but it's one thing I never mentioned to my psychologist. I don't know why I just never thought I need to tell her.
Last year I met a guy from Annoncelight that I could talk to for some reason. So he became the only one who knew my secrets and my dark side. He was in a bad relationship for 8 years. He told me that he and the woman he lived with had talked many times broke up. So he left her with me and we started dating and moved in together.for about a year.things are fine.I have depression but I have had it for years so I have a way to deal with it.
I came home from school one day last month and he and his luggage were gone. He just disappeared. He wrote me a message saying for he and his ex's children he can no longer be with me. He felt that I was not part of his family. It's fair. For children is the reason I can accept. I also asked him if he had any future plans. He said he would get help from his parents and would soon get his own apartment.
But I only found out two days ago that he actually went back with his ex. He has moved directly from me to her. I asked him how she could possibly accept him back. They hate each other very much. They couldn't speak for a really long time. She was angry that he started a new life so soon after her. I don't understand how she could possibly accept him back.
He told me he told her everything about Annoncelight, everything he couldnt be honest with her in those 8 years. But my secret was also part of the story he told her.
I don't know how I feel now. My depression got worse after he left. Now I feel like I'm going crazy.
So far his mom and he threatened me 3 times.if i dont shut up like they would do something to make sure I had to leave the country. I feel like I have to say it all out, but I can't talk to anyone in real about it.
it's all my fault
i shouldnt trust him
its all my fault