Sorry, but have to explain

[Lucie_ 10]

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Hello everyone, I decided to write a new thread for 2 reasons.

1. I could not respond to this thread (https://www.eroguide.dk/forum/topic/209038-lingam-kbh-15-tips/) in time, as I simply do not check the forum, unless someone tells me someone has written about me, so it was closed by the time I checked again, as the tone got a bit negative. So, wish to keep it objective (from my perspective here).
2. I do not want to derail yet another thread, so I decided to post separately. I am referring to this one:

https://www.eroguide.dk/forum/topic/209167-b2b-tantra-kbh-12-tips/

 

I see why my behaviour might seem repulsive to some, and I do believe it seems that I am rejecting the whole review, but it was not the case. I was explaining why the person was blocked. My overall opinion of the reviews is fine, as I believe his whole thread, overall, and that he was reviewing truthfully. Except I did have reasons, and by the time I could respond again, the thread was closed.

As I have looked further back into my email (again, I delete sms and WhatsApp messages), I found some emails from him that further prove my point.

I will post below the actual second response I had prepared, but did not manage to send on time. 

As to the second reviewer, I understand that my trying to explain things puts you off. And I cannot argue with that.

I did not want to write any of the below, so I decided to let it be, until again I was accused of behaving in a bad way.

Here is a copy of what I had prepared, as well as emails:


I really wish to not continue with the discussion from my side any further, but I would like to add some details.

Especially, as everyone has the right to an opinion and to view things from their side. But I would like to keep a civil tone. So, in no way do I want the attached images to be used for insults or pointing fingers. As none of this is of any concern in regard to how I do things now.

Meaning, I have changed so many locations since the exchange of emails, and am also selective in who I meet. And I do not feel worried at all. 

Also, deep down, I believe he does not mean it seriously, but some things are not to be joked about (see the text in the red section). A good joke should be lighthearted.

 

Before anything else, I would like to add a note about my first comment:

I was told by someone about the review on the day I wrote the comment. I do not come to the forum for months at a time, because I like to spend my energy on in-person meetings, where I can direct it towards what is expected of me in regard to what I promise on my website.

 

I do understand how, from his point of view, things might seem innocent, but I am a fair person and would like to be treated fairly as well. 

Every person who has ever visited me knows that I am not firm about the time. As I mentioned, shower time is not included in the total duration, and a chat afterwards is welcome, but that should not be taken advantage of.

 

Then, about the sms, I could not recover them, as I mentioned, I delete messages often, to make sure privacy is maintained.

But I do keep emails (not all), which are stored securely.

 

Regarding being generous and "free entrance to places". It was not a nightclub, but a church concert (so here you also misreport a detail).

And the gym entrance, I never mentioned a gym or that I go to one.

And usually, when people give me gifts, it's when they visit me. You never suggested that or gave me anything in person during a meeting, you texted it. Therefore, the only way for me to get it was outside of a meeting. Or at least in the way I understand it, it was suggested for the next day, but how was I supposed to get in the gym? When we did not have a meeting set up... And I never asked for it.

This is confusing to me.

Anyways, attaching some emails (detailed obscured but in a way that it shows it is from the same person), as it shows the persistence, even though I have expressed at first gently my preference not to meet again, and then there were sms as well (which I delete regularly), but the emails show that even if I do not answer, he still emails. And in one of the emails, he does mention he sent quite a lot of sms. And at some point, I had to be firm.

I would like to think that it is best to let some things be, and not to pursue further, especially if "No" was said.

 

It is just either one big misunderstanding, or maybe I am over exaggerating things. I am not willing to tell people what to think, just ask that there is no negativity in the comments.

 

Thank you for reading, and sorry for the long comment.

Also, sorry for taking the attention from the otherwise well-written review of other lovely ladies.

 

PS.:
I was approached by many people (some who have met me, some who have not), asking if they should either write anything or post their previous experiences with me, but I said no, because it does not seem right to post positive things now, they won't seem genuine.
Also, I cannot comment any further because I wrote what I personally needed to write. And wish to stop posting comments in general.

Best wishes to all.

Redigeret mandag klokken 15:28 af Lucie_

[Elprebsi 1932]

Hi Lucie

I dont know you or your customer. My impression though is stalking. To be honest I dont know if they help foreigners or sexworkers, but if you feel you need guidance, try and contact Danish Center for Stalking https://danskstalkingcenter.dk 

[Den_glade_amatør 5432]

Helt fair, at du giver din version af forløbet, @Lucie_. Og modsat i andre tråde, hvor en GP har svaret på kritik har udviklet sig til, formår du at holde en sober tone, hvilket ikke altid er let i situationer med “ord mod ord”, når man føler sig uretfærdigt omtalt eller behandlet.

Vi andre kender jo ikke det præcise forløb og alle henvendelser, som @Negan forsøgte sig med, og det er der vist heller ingen grund til at dvæle mere ved. Men retfærdigvis opstår der af og til situationer, hvor GPen som følge af travlhed eller for at bevare diskretionen (fordi der er gået lang tid) eller på grund af noget andet ikke kommer tilbage til manden, som spørger, og han forsøger derfor at henvende sig igen en gang eller to mere. I sjældnere tilfælde nok også mange flere gange, hvilket GPen godt kan opfatte som en alt for insisterende adfærd, som ender med at gøre ham til en uønsket kunde.

[Thungur 313]

Lucie_ skrev, for 19 timer siden:

I really wish to not continue with the discussion from my side any further, but I would like to add some details.

You say you don’t want to continue the discussion, and then go on to create a new thread with a long post justifying yourself. That just comes across as wanting the last word.

Someone wrote what I would consider a good and fair review, albeit with a note about some kind of mix-up between you two. Despite that mix-up, the author still recommended you. You voiced your objections and your perspective in the other thread. It could have ended there, especially since the other person said they would drop the matter, and no one would have thought any less of you for it.