Need advice

[awa369 0]

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Hi, I am 29 and relatively new guy in Denmark. I come from a background where discussing openly about sex is taboo and even the dating culture is non-existent. Consequently, I was a virgin when i came here. Due to my background I have zero dating skills and I was super horny. Therefore, I visited a few prostitutes here.

Now I am a student and I shouldn't really do that.I am afraid that I have ruined my life by taking this step. Maybe someone here can please tell me how can I control my hyper sexuality and not visit prostitutes.

I know that this is wrong and don't want to do it but I somehow end up doing it again. Does anybody of you had such situation can tell me how did you cope with it?

Sorry for asking this question here. I don't know really where to seek help.

[Lauersen 8880]

I don't have any good advice, but perhaps some bad.

I am taking a wild guess that in your culture, masturbation is taboo as well, and that doing that comes with a feeling of shame for you. It is of course easy for a shameless person like myself to suggest using masturbation to control your sexual desires like I do myself, but you could try fighting the shame, and begin to assure yourself that you really need to be in control, that you deserve to be satisfied, and that it feels good to be in your body. When all the negative thoughts come, welcome them in,kiss them welcome and let them stay in the background while you take control of your own body, your own mind, your own desires and fantasies.

[Argent 1228]

Not having money is the only tried and tested version that works 100% of the time for me, I'm sorry to say.

When you can't afford to go visit your favourite girl, you learn to make do with PornHub, tissues, and Palmela Handerson

 

That said, some advice that has saved my head (and wallet) in the long term, is when you're absolutely crawling up the wall in desperation for some pussy... FORCE yourself to masturbate - to completion! Get that gold star!

Once the deed is done, the lust 'n need to get off subsides, and you can relax.. If anything, focus on the money you just saved. Look for any distraction, and if you need to - whack off again.

 

Don't feel bad or ashamed though - when I was new to 'all this', I burned through 15.000 DKK in about 3 months, not being able to contain myself; so much fun to be had! Lesson learned the hard way though.

[Harran 2385]

awa369 skrev, for 8 timer siden:

I know that this is wrong and don't want to do it

You know that it is wrong? I do not know that it is wrong. Instead of controlling that issue you might want to control your shame. But i do agree with @Argent the best way of controlling visiting prostitutes is forcing your economy in a different direction. I signed up for an expensive retirement investment. Money gone - will benefit me in the future and less ladies for me these days. That also reduced my urges.

[Bear 8027]

awa369 skrev, for 10 timer siden:

Hi, I am 29 and relatively new guy in Denmark. I come from a background where discussing openly about sex is taboo and even the dating culture is non-existent. Consequently, I was a virgin when i came here. Due to my background I have zero dating skills and I was super horny. Therefore, I visited a few prostitutes here.

Now I am a student and I shouldn't really do that.I am afraid that I have ruined my life by taking this step. Maybe someone here can please tell me how can I control my hyper sexuality and not visit prostitutes.

I know that this is wrong and don't want to do it but I somehow end up doing it again. Does anybody of you had such situation can tell me how did you cope with it?

Sorry for asking this question here. I don't know really where to seek help.

Masturbate as much as you can. 

[Borende X 25035]

awa369 skrev, for 10 timer siden:

Now I am a student and I shouldn't really do that.I am afraid that I have ruined my life by taking this step. Maybe someone here can please tell me how can I control my hyper sexuality and not visit prostitutes.

Nature is calling, and you can't ignore that call. Shame doesn't help at all, so why not accept your sexuality as an unavoidable fact and reconcile with it??