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Nille, I am sorry for my not last comment to you! If you feel so, then I should have not used that last comment. I wanted to let it go, and as you can read in my third (or fourth) post, I did say "the case is simple and no need to discuss further". In that comment, I wanted to close the case and receive no more comments. But things go far beyond what I expected. I received a lot of comments that are against me. Some comments are mocking (sarcastic) and some are even offensive. Some comments are even educative as they are giving me lectures. I get more frustrated because people don't get it and they attacked me back. I am also a sensible guy, I just simply get offended and speak out my feelings. I am sure you are also a good guy. Simply our views about one specific case are different does not mean we are different in our hearts. Cheers,

What I behave and felt is based on who I am and what my personality is. It has nothing to do with my cultural background. I go for the fairness in communication between service providers (the clinics) and clients (me). If you are the kind of guy who can take it very easy when some one treat you like this case, then you are very different from my personality. You are a strong man, a real man who don't want to make a big fuzz over a small thing or you are just a coward sheep, who can never stand out and talk when receiving unfairness, I don't know. I don't know if it is part of your culture to ignore all these "small things". But please respect the difference as I do. It is hard to convince ones to think and feel the same way you do. I have told my opinions several times, so if you are able to get what I meant, you would have been. So don't try to understand me if you can't, as I can never understand you. Thank you!

You just don't get what I meant. I just say all we crave for is them to be open and direct in their first place, which is their advertisements. Every other ways to indirectly screen out the girls' choices is only disrespectful. For me, it is funny that you find that kind of behaviour acceptable if it happened to you. I have no comments about that since we have different personality, or we are just very different so it is impossible to make one understands each other (means, I understand you and you understand me).

As FORTE has said, I had the same feelings that the very first question of the phone lady that matters. It was the "hvor komme du fra?" question. If some other foreigner called and told he was 45, then the phone lady would very likely answer that Alia only took men under 40. Only Forte has so far understood my frustration. This was damn covered racial discrimination. It hurts more when people like those from Sexyclub acted out to reject oversea men rather than just told their preferences in their site. I bet that if we can see an add saying "no foreigners" in the first place, we will surely be happy to stay away from that girl and we will never bother to call to ask. We do not give a shit about the discrimination you have. What we all need is them to be DIRECT in their choices in the first place (in their ads)! While other girl in the same clinic can do that honestly, why some girls can not bother take 5 minute to clarify their own preferences in their ads? Look at these honest ads, we do not have any problem with these girls from the beginning since we know their choices. http://www.sexyclub.dk/girls/dina4/index.php http://seductiongirls.dk/pigerne/alexandra/ Copenhagen is the capital of Denmark where there are tens of thousand of young foreign men who are working and paying tax to the Danish society. With such an INTERNATIONAL place, don't people from the Clinic expect that there are thousands of potential foreign men are reading their website and considering to visit them (visit the clinic)? Will the clinic always try to make questions about age to indirectly reject foreign men? That is damn DISRESPECTFUL and it offends us very much.

While most people are reasonably/politely providing their own views to the problem, you seem to not only provide your own view but also like to provoke hostile comments based on your STUPIDITY that you may call it your ability to make your own "Danish sarcasm". I can understand that you may not comprehend what I meant in my first post because you were not me, as I was not you; but I can't understand what is wrong with you now. Go and ask your mother to teach you about self-respect.

I am sorry to say that you might have been too lazy to read my first post carefully, or you did read but fail to comprehend what I mean.

My point is they (Alia and the clinic) could have spare many customers who are not under her criterion from WASTING our time if they (the clinic) made honest advertisement. If you guys read my first post carefully, I DID say I was happy to gave up, I did NOT bother about the rejection. I was NOT trying to convince her to accept me. Everybody seems to know where the real problem is (being non-Danes) but you just do not want to point that word out. . Ok! Anyway, I was calling the second time to the clinic for a CONSTRUCTIVE comment based on the right to make praise and criticism. Please don't tell me a non-Danish aren't allowed to make praise and criticism to a clinic in the land of Denmark. Never mind!!! This story is simple and no need to discuss further, I think. Mange tak!

I do respect her choice. I had no problem with her "no". Only the way they handle the false advertisement is a problem for me.

I do respect her choice. I had no problem with her "no". Only the way they handle the false advertisement is a problem for me.

Første gang jeg forsøgte at ringe Sexyclub morges. Der var en telefon dame, som fik mit kald. Jeg forsøgte at bruge dansk til at bede om en aftale med Alia. Jeg blev spurgt af den dame, Alia brug for at vide to ting, før hun kunne blive enige om appoitment, hvor jeg kommer fra, og hvor gammel jeg er. Jeg fortalte, jeg var 28 og damen sagde jeg var for ung, da Alia accepteres kun mænd over 40 år. Jeg sagde, at Alia annonceret hun var kun 21 og hun ikke skrive noget som dem Telefonen dame sagde, var Alia valg. Jeg havde ingen yderligere kommentarer og sagde tak til damen. Vi lukkede den første samtale. (I switch to English to make it easier for myself.) However, I was quite upset and a bit angry with the way they do. I had no problem with the rejection due to Alia's personal preferences, but they could have made it clear on their website. Actually I have to set aside other things I need to do in order to call the clinic today. In my opinion, it was rude of them to not advertise the personal choice of Alia. They have wasted my time and they have dissapointed me. They could have been more professional than that. I called Sexyclub again, saying that I wanted to discuss the fact that Alia did not make it clear in their website, and I was unhappy. At first, the phone lady said that I was making her unhappy and now we were two unhappy people. Her voice was not so friendly to my ears. I said apology to her if I was making her feel uncomfortable with my converstation. I said I respected Alia personal choice, but I only wanted to comment on the fact that she should have made all her preferences clear in their website. I said if she did so, then I would not waste my time on that. I said I was unhappy and maybe there would be other customers who felt the same. The lady said the other customers were only dissapointed when they were rejected, they were not unhappy. I said if this was alright for them to let customers dissapointed. She said no, she would tell Alia to update her advertisement. We closed the conversation. But through out the conversation, I had never heard any "sorry" word from her.