Johnds, you are a funny guy asking me to ask my mother(!) about self respect , that made me laught hard. Meanwhile I cannot believe that you actually think that you have the right to have sex with Alia in the same manner as you have the right to be served at a restaurant. This is the first thing that I take issue with you, since you obviously have a very outdated view of women's self determination. Of course this is what your real problem is and not this ridiculous cover story that you only want them to be upfront with who they want to meet. Be honest with yourself, would you really be happier if they had told you the real reason upfront? I don't think so, in fact you would have pulled the race card and shouted from the top of your lungs in the same manner you have done now. This self-serving misuse of a racist accusation is the second thing where I take issue with you. You simply do not seem to get it, buying sex is not the same as ordering dinner from a waitress, it is far more personal and taxing on the woman involved, so she clearly have much greater discretion of choice. This is no more racist than if a Danish girl in a nightclub does not want to entertain you. I trust women to make that choice for themselves without pressure of being called racists. Another thing, I am not Danish, but I have been with the wonderful Alia, so in a way I can understand how disappointed you must be to have been rejected. That's life I guess, why don't you ask your mother how to deal with it . Awaiting your childish response.......